Make More Love Not War

It’s easy to look at someone else and think…Man, they must have it easy because they are beautiful, rich, smart, well connected with tons of privileges that I don’t have. They must be happy all the time as they skip through their magical life while I grind out every single inch as I push my boulder up a very steep rock mountain like Sisyphus. It may even be impossible to see the struggles others have especially in this artificial, only show my best social media world. There are people that make decisions on what they are going to do over the weekend based on whether it will create stunning social media pictures to put up on their InstaBrag page. They may not even enjoy the activity but if it makes others jealous then it’s a win. With all of this pressure to always be someone else creating content for our media company called Ego Incorporated, we can lose touch of the human struggles everyone has. Our guest today, Andrea Johnson is a Licensed Professional Counselor that many would look at and say she has

Sexual fetishes play a major role in many people’s lives but for some people they make no sense. I’m sure many of you have heard of one of the most popular fetishes, the infamous foot fetish. If you are not into feet, this may sound like the craziest thing in the world. Why would someone get off looking at a girl’s sweaty dirty feet? This just sounds like the most bizarre behavior to some people. If you think that is unusual, how about microphilia and macrophilia. What’s that you ask? These are fetishes where people fantasize about being either really small like a toy doll or really big like a giant. I bet you didn’t see that one coming. Some fetishes don’t even have a name but people will commission custom porn companies to create these fantasies. In the book “The Butterfly Effect” by Jon Ronson, he talks to custom porn producers and actresses about films they made for customers. One was a Wonder Woman and Gremlin film where the Gremlin makes Wonder Woman do certain things and has complete control

In our last podcast titled “Real Men Know She Comes First with Ian Kerner”, Ian explained to us the importance of using oral sex to fully please a woman. He calls it “Core Play” because that’s what brings the most pleasure to women. He also created the word “Cliteracy” and tells men that there are no more excuses for being “Ill-cliterate” with women. Ian Kerner says “Down with ill-cliteracy! The tongue is mightier than the sword! Think outside HER box! Viva la Vulva!” His book “She Comes First” is mainly targeted at helping men understand women’s sexual needs better and gives a step by step guide to blow a woman’s mind in the bedroom. As awesome as Ian Kerner’s book is at helping men, it is only half the battle. Women need to know their bodies better and what brings them pleasure. Our guest today, Laurie Mintz wrote the book “Becoming Cliterate Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How To Get it”. In this amazing book, Laurie guides women in exploring their bodies to understand what they like so they c

In the world of psychology, there are people that push the boundary of knowledge that transcend our understanding of the human experience to a new level. People like Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, John and Julie Gottman and Abraham Maslow have been able to capture a behavior humans unconsciously do and articulate it into a theory that allows us all to evolve past the emotions that are steering our lives into destructive situations. Sometimes their theories are so clear that they can be put into a few words. I’m sure everyone has heard the term “Freudian Slip” which is an error in speech due to the interference of an unconscious train of thought or “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs” is about meeting a need like eating, shelter, safety before you can move up to self-fulfillment needs that include creative activities like painting. There are few people that have this kind of impact on the world of psychology that they are a must to know and learn from. On today’s show, we have one of these amazing people in the world

Imagine being a fly on the wall at a winery as a group of women explore their inner thoughts with NO filter. This is exactly what we do in our series Wine With Wine. This is "Girl Talk" that is not for those with delicate ears. Let us transport you to a forbidden wonderland that explores the crazy things that happen in modern relationships. Grab your popcorn and enjoy!

If you are like me, you have been in a relationship that seemed perfect on paper but turned out to be terrible in real life. You have the same interest, background but for some reason it just doesn’t work. This can cause you to be confused when this so-called perfect relationship falls apart. If you are also like many of us, you don’t make this mistake just once but several times. You find yourself in some kind of relationship death spiral that keeps you coming back to the same type of partners. You may start to see the signs sooner but find it very difficult to break this pattern. You need to pivot but find yourself unable to transform to develop the relationship that will make you happy and fulfilled. Our guest today, Dr. Jessica Higgins is a Relationship and Transformational Coach. Jessica is known for her deep understanding and keen perception; while being able to translate her observations and knowledge to help clients shift and transform their ways of relating. She guides clients on a path f

When you hear the word meditation, an image of a wise old monk setting on top of a mountain with his legs crossed, back straight, eyes closed, hands resting on his knees with the index and thumb touching might pop into your head. He’s in some kind of magical trance that takes years of training to control the mind well enough to achieve. Many of us in our go go go modern world often feel like we are missing out on something if we are not meditating three hours a day or at the very least being mindful and present in our body and mind. We want to feel connected but we don’t know how. You may be thinking….ok Terah, I want to start meditating but what’s the best for me. There are so many different types of meditation practices out there Zen Meditation, Guided Meditation, Mindfulness Meditation, Mantra Meditation, Transcendental Meditation, Yoga Meditation, Third Eye Meditation, Tantra Meditation, Sound Meditation, Taoist Meditation, and much more. Those all sound great but I’m not really sure what’s diff

“Domination's the name of the game in bed or in life, They're both just the same, Except in one you're fulfilled at the end of the day, Let's play master and servant”. This is how Depeche Mode described what is now called “Kink” in their hit song “Master And Servant”. When I first heard this song as a teenager, I had no idea what they were talking about. I just thought it was a cool song from one of my favorite bands and to be completely open at the time making out with a boy was as far as I could even think about. Now I understand what they are talking about but like many of us I don’t know the deep down value of this play. What draws someone to dominating another person in bed or even better why would someone want to be dominated? Is this just fun couple’s play or is there something about it that being treated like a dog helps balance a person out? Like many of you I’m curious to learn more; to answer these questions and more we interviewed “The Supernova of Kink” from San Francisco. With a title li

When most people talk about evolutionary psychology they will give the example of a caveman in the wilderness that hears a rustle in the bushes. This caveman from 1 million years ago can think it is just the wind or a lion that’s about to eat him. Without knowing this caveman will have three ways to react; fight, flight or freeze. Even though we are now modern super sophisticated homosapiens that never come across a lion in our iphone and internet world we still have the same reaction as our million year old caveman ancestors when something unexpected happens. It may not be a lion but a surprise email from our boss’s boss can strike fear to our core when we don’t know if we are getting a promotion or fired. We will have the same fight, flight or freeze reaction as our caveman ancestor. You may see the email; freeze and think of what this surprise email is all about. Or you could run away from it and refuse to open it. Or you could get all worked up and be ready to argue a point you don’t even know wha

At the end of the movie “Schindler’s List”, Oskar Schindler met with the 1,200 Jewish workers he forged identification papers for and bribed Nazi officers into releasing from the concentration camp Auschwitz to work in his Nazi ammunition factory to declare they were all free to go. During this very emotional scene, Schindler is saying good-bye to his good and trusted friend that was the financial manager of the plant. As Schindler stands there with a gold Nazi swastika medallion on the label of his suit, his friend hands him a letter signed by everyone and a ring. Written on the ring was a message from the Talmud that said, “Whoever saves one life saves the world entire.” As Schindler slowly puts on this priceless ring he looks over the sea of faces he saved and begins to feel regret for not doing more. He questions why he kept his car because that could’ve saved 10 people and the gold Nazi medallion could’ve saved one person. Schindler entered the war as a wealthy industrialist; by the end, he was ban

When you hear the term “Pick Up Artist” you may picture a cheesy guy telling embarrassingly bad lines to a girl like….”Did it hurt? When you fell from Heaven?” Or “If I could rearrange the alphabet I would put U and I together.” Or even more ridiculous “Are you from Tennessee? Because you’re the only 10 I see!” I’m pretty sure that these so-called “Pick Up Lines” never actually picked anyone up. Best case they got a laugh but most likely they were dealt an EPIC eye roll from the extremely unimpressed lady that had the misfortune to hear them. I’m not even sure if this caricature of a pick up artist ever really existed, but I do know that the modern Pick Up Artist community does exist and it does have trainable methods that can help men get out of their houses and start approaching real women in the real world with more confidence. Guys like Rolling Stones writer, Neil Strauss, popularized this underground community in his bestselling book “The Game”. “Neil Strauss was a High School Loser, Never Made it w

Life has a funny way of putting obstacles in our path that seem impossible but end up being the best thing that has ever happened to us. Marcus Aurelius the great Roman Philosopher Emperor wrote, “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” A famous parable called “The King and the Boulder” also illustrates this point In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock.Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road.After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the r

Why are so many smart successful women still single? They have it all….great job, beautiful house, amazing friends but their romantic life is either non-existent or it’s so bad that calling it a train wreck would be an upgrade. So what’s the deal? Modern men claim they want smart, successful and independent women…but do they really? The lab data and the real world practice are not adding up. It appears that women winning in life is some kind of repellent to men. What’s a smart modern woman to do now? Throw on the apron and become the 1950’s TV wife or just keep winning and telling yourself “I don’t need a man to be happy. I have my vibrator and endless batteries”? Lucky for you…you don’t have to settle for either. Our guest today, Jenna Birch, authored the book “The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love”. The Love Gap is a guide for modern women to have it all. She lays out the four key profiles women encounter dating while offering a complete plan for building modern relationships that

Did Jesus have SEX!?!...WHAT! Did he get married?....COME ON NOW! People are starting to believe that this is true based on the Gnostic Gospels. What’s the Gnostic Gospels you ask? The Gnostic Gospels are Gospels that were condemned from being in the New Testament. These gospels were hidden from the world for almost 2000 years. They were found buried in an area 200 miles south of Cairo Egypt in 1945 by two farmers looking for fertilizer. How crazy is that? They were digging for fertilizer and found some bones and a large sealed jar. Most of us would be so curious to open an old sealed jar found in the ground that we would’ve opened it immediately. These two guys didn’t open it right away? Why you ask? You’re not going to believe this….they actually thought an evil GENIE would come out. I can’t make this stuff up. They later came to their senses and imagined it full of Gold. Of course….Gold motivated them to break the jar. They didn’t find gold but they did find thirteen leather-bound papyrus

Single and searching in the modern app and online dating world is constantly evolving at a speed that may be quicker than people can keep up with. Every generation has it’s challenges to find love but today’s way of ordering a boyfriend like a pizza is new. Wow he’s hot and he’s not. Swipe left no no no swipe right. I love this guy….even though we have never met. Do I call him back…or text him…or ghost him? How do I know if he really wants a relationship or just a hookup? Should I play hard to get or is that just something my grandma would tell me to do? Is this guy safe? When should I introduce my dating app boyfriend to my friends? Will I ever find love with a dating app or online or is this just a step above swinging? It’s not easy out there but in our series “Single and Searching” we explore modern dating with singles that want to find love.https://twitter.com/MysteriousDater

Many women want to know if guys really like to go down on them or are they just putting in some time before they move onto what they want. Let’s be honest ladies….we LOVE oral sex but many of us can’t fully enjoy it because we are worried that he doesn’t like it, I smell down there, he must think my pussy is weird looking especially with his front row view right now, will he think I’m a slut if he knows how much I love this, and so on. All of these questions rolling around in your head can cause you to miss out on something wonderful. On today’s show we interview Shaun Galanos. Shaun is the host of a playful and honest podcast about modern sexuality and intimacy called ‘The Love Drive”. The Love Drive podcast was born and exists with the sole mission to make sex and love less awkward by talking about it. Shaun brings humor and depth to subjects many are too afraid to talk about. His podcast is sex-positive with true intentions to help people learn more about each other. Website: www.thelovedrive.c

Sex Addiction has become a modern buzz word that has given powerful men a “Get out of Jail Free” card when they are caught cheating on their wives. We have all seen the famous men that get caught cheating then go to an expensive rehab center to cure them from this “demonic force” that has taken over their lives. It’s happened so many times in the past three decades that it’s become a punch line on shows like South Park. But is Sex Addiction real or a myth and can it be treated? On this podcast we interview an expert on Sexual Addiction, Dr. David Ley. He has become world famous for his critical stance regarding sex addiction but he has the credentials to back it up. Dr. David Ley is a Board-certified sex therapist, supervisor of sex therapy and Director of New Mexico Solutions, a large outpatient mental health and substance abuse program in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He has published three critically-acclaimed books, Insatiable Wives, The Myth of Sexual Addiction and Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guid

What does Sex Worker mean to you? Does it make you think of some underworld where drug addicted women trade their bodies for another hit of heroin or meth with no regard to their future or anyone else? Or do you think of a middle class Soccer Mom taking care of her kids, managing her own company and creating a charity? It may be time to move past the Hollywood version of a Sex Worker. Today’s modern sex workers are online, live in suburbia, they are safe, create charities to help other sex workers and raise their children with more quality time than anyone with a 9 to 5 job. In this podcast we interview two amazing women, Penny Trait and Alex Bishop, both proud online sex workers and even prouder single mothers who created a charity porn project called I Give A Fuck Clips with their fellow sex worker colleague Jessie Sage. Alex and Penny may change your opinion of what a real sex worker is in the 21st Century. ilovealexbishop.comigiveafuck.manyvids.com @ilovealexbishop@pennytrait@sapiotextual@igafclips

Where do men go when they are searching for meaning? The need for meaning and purpose is an intrinsic part of a life that is completely satisfying and has no regret. The difficulty for many men is they feel obligated to suppress inner issues like childhood trauma, wants, dreams, desires and emotions to appear strong to the outside world. Sometimes you can have everything in your life in the right order, your job, family, friends..... it looks good on paper, but you still feel empty inside. Or maybe your life has gone off track and you are trying to figure out how to get back to where you need to be. The ManKind Project is a group where men encourage other men to stop putting on a front and put in the hard work to get to the core issues that are making them feel empty inside. The Mankind Project serves close to 10,000 men each week in 11 regions worldwide through challenging programs designed to empower men to missions of service to support men to make a difference in the lives of others. They have men’s

Ladies learn how to give yourself multiple orgasms, how long should you wait before having sex the first time, how to put a guy into a "Sexual Coma", learn why day dates are good if you are in a new relationship and much more. Imagine being a fly on the wall at a winery as a group of women explore their inner thoughts with NO filter. This is exactly what we do in our series Wine With Wine. This is "Girl Talk" that is not for those with delicate ears. Let us transport you to a forbidden wonderland that explores the crazy things that happen in modern relationships. Grab your popcorn and enjoy!