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No one makes major changes when they are comfortable; it’s pain that motivates us to change.  If you’re in pain right now, it’s there to wake you up and fire you up to take necessary action that you’ve put off for way too long.  Our physical bodies use pain as an alarm system, to alert us that there’s a problem we need to address like NOW.  Like the time I ruptured a disc in my spine kickboxing because I couldn’t ever be bothered to warm up or stretch…without that excruciating pain, I would have kept going and been paralyzed.  For our emotional state, the pain may not be so startling…it can show up as resentment, depression, feeling unmotivated, exhausted, anxious, or overwhelmed. Interesting how we have a greater tolerance for emotional pain than physical pain isn’t it?  Bottom line, if you are feeling restless, irritable, or discontent, your nervous system is trying to send you a PAIN WARNING.  It will only get louder and deeper until you address it.    By avoiding your pain emotionally or physically, you a

It fu€king HURTS! It’s painful when people you thought were in your corner don’t support your dreams. It’s painful when you’re told as a kid you aren’t good enough in some type of way.  It’s painful when no one seems to understand, why you don’t want to follow the status quo and want more for your life.  If you’re familiar with me at all through here or my podcast, it may be surprising for you to know that I’ve lived most of my life with ZERO self-worth. I even thought God forgot about me.  These toxic people tear our belief in ourselves to pieces; when we don’t put the pieces back together again, THEY WIN. You may be doubting your ability to do what you want to do, or to have what you desire instead of settling for less >>> that’s normal if you’ve had other people tear you down in life.  Now it’s up to you to build yourself back up. To rise. To flourish. To overcome.  Let me tell you, there is nothing more powerful than someone who has risen from the rubble.  You don’t have to rebuild alone. In fact, I don’t

Her words almost stopped me… This now Insta-famous chick replied with a condescending laugh when I told her that I was launching a podcast.  “Oh you know those don’t make any money and they aren’t worth all the effort.”  This was 4 years ago, and just recently she launched her own podcast. Hmmmm Mmmmm…I know. I almost allowed her words to get into my head…the negative committee in my brain started going,” well maybe she’s right and it’s silly to think this will work…who in the hell are you anyway to do this “  Obviously, I didn’t allow the committee (or her opinion) to control me…instead, I chose to let it fuel me.  Thank God because within just months I had my first 5-figure podcast sponsor, and I was getting paid to do what I love…TEACH and TALK!! If I had leaned into the negative, it would have cost me millions of dollars, and I wouldn’t have impacted millions of listeners. You must assess the Cost Factor of your doubt-filled thoughts. The Cost Factor of you putting this off one more month, one more year. 

I only pay for the best…   because I want the best outcome.  You can’t buy a knock-off Chanel bag and expect it to look, feel, and vibe like the real thing.  Just like my Success Coach & friend Cara @thechampagnediet says in this quote, “Choose yourself and watch the world start choosing you too.”  The same holds true for your life and money desires…. Half measures don’t make millions.  Half measures don’t get big action results.  Half measures don’t nurture a relationship.  Half measures never hit the mark.  What would your daily actions look like, if you decided you are only available for full-measured results?  Listen to this conversation between me and Cara Alwill, 9x Best Selling Author and Host of the Style Your Mind podcast… you will walk away only accepting the best for yourself and getting it.  Connect with Cara: Instagram: @thechampagnediet Best Selling Books: thechampagnediet.com  ICONIC waitlist link: thechampagnediet.com/iconic FINAL CHANCE TO APPLY for my exclusive ProjectME 6-Month Mast

This has to be said… Holding yourself back from writing that post, making that video, publishing that book, starting that business, doing your thang, because you’re worried about what “THEY” will think, is ruining your life.  Yes, people will say stuff, they will talk shiz behind your back, and maybe think you’re crazy…it will sting, but that initial pain will quickly be replaced with a feeling of pride and self-respect for following through and doing it anyway.  When we hold back, it ignites shame and self-doubt, which only keeps us stuck.  Do you really want to give that much power to other people to control your dreams? We only have a few months left in the year…say F IT and take an action on something you’ve been sitting on and obsessing over. Just think of how good it will feel to be in action instead of stagnant.  Imagine what you could do with all of the time and energy you’ve been spending desiring instead of doing.  It’s DO season baby. A BIG FAT ZFG to anyone who isn’t totally supporting your best l

No longer impressed with this… It blows my mind to think that I used to wear my level of extreme busyness and hustle-induced exhaustion like a badge of honor.  When I would see other people grinding away, I would be impressed and sometimes envious if I felt they had the ability to work harder, longer, and more often than me.  This applied to every area of my life: at the gym I would do all the classes at max effort, in my personal life I was doing the responsibilities for 7 people, and in my business life, if I wasn’t working I felt like I could lose everything in an instant.  While most people who wear this Busyness Badge get a high off it and a sense of control….it all turns to sh!t because you end up feeling resentful, exhausted, depleted, and angry when you don’t achieve your desired result.  This is how I built my first business….on pure grind, self-will, and hustle…. This is also how I ended up almost dead by grinding my body and brain into the ground.  Hustling is a scam. It is NOT required for success

Remember this > if nothing else… Because it will happen throughout your entire life… You’re going to have intense emotions come up around money, maybe you’re in that space right now. This happens because of what money represents for you.  You’ve inherited beliefs and have visceral responses to receiving money, losing money, and desiring money that WILL control your life if left unaddressed.  You don’t magically become abundant. You must do inner work to believe you are already abundant while managing the repelling thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs that WILL come up around money. Both strangers and loved ones will project their own money noise onto you, and if you aren’t managing your own money energy daily…you WILL quickly absorb that abundance-repelling without even realizing it. Just as you have to prioritize your physical wellness daily if you want to feel your best, you also must prioritize your money mindset, if you want to have true financial freedom.  If you make the choice to be lazy or inconsistent wi

This also doesn’t work… I’ve seen countless friends, fellow entrepreneurs, health practitioners, and clients get caught in the ALL or NOTHING cycle. It looks like this… Procrastinating, avoiding stuff, resisting hiring help, and then everything starts slowly piling up…and your stress level increases as the pressure grows. You end up dreading your business, being snappy with the people closest to you, losing sleep, can’t poop, and you finally get so miserable that you go say “F IT” and spring into action like a leopard on a raw T-bone steak.  You frantically go do all the things, get a temporary high from this sudden productivity, and then crash. The cycle starts all over again.  Our number one most productive state to be in is PEACE. Solutions come more easily and we think clearly from this space. Fear and anxiety block solutions, creativity, and mental clarity (unless we are being chased by a bear).  Slow and steady always finishes the race. Going fast and frantic only leads to injury and burnout.  Peace is

 Get your sh*t together, Sis. Summer has a way of distracting many people from their dreams. It’s an easy excuse that sounds reasonable; “I’ll get back at it after the summer.” This is no different than telling yourself, you will “start on Monday,” or  “after the holidays,” or “when the kids go back to school.” After 15 years as an entrepreneur, I’ve heard all of the stories and reasoning people use to resist going after their dreams. I’ve also used them myself, and before I knew it three years passed me by, then six, then TEN! (yes it took me 10 years to start ProjectME) If you’ve been in this resistant state, it’s for one of two reasons: You believe that you will have to sacrifice something you don’t want to lose, in order to generate the money you desire.  You don’t believe it’s truly possible for you, so it’s not a top priority.  Neither of these beliefs is getting you any closer to having the business, the cash, the freedom, and the options you want.  So the first order of business here is to adopt new

This is long overdue…I bet You’ve been burning a ton of mental energy in resistance lately. You want to create a different life, generate a new level of income, and open up a wide array of options for yourself and your loved ones…yet your actions don’t fully match your desired outcome.  Sometimes your mind will trick you into believing you’re doing ALL THE THINGS, and nothing is working at the level you want it to, or as fast as you would like…but your higher self knows that bullish!t. Seriously I complained for 8 years about how exhausted and mentally drained I was, yet I still didn’t take the action to move in a different direction.  There is only one thing more painful than watching other people go for and live out the lifestyle that you so badly crave… That would be, knowing you never fully went for it. Knowing you only gave it half-measures, and wondering what would have been if you had just taken the risk, and went all in.  Stop trying to have it both ways: feeling comfortable while achieving life-chang

We’ve been lied to… For most of our lives, we’ve been fed false narratives around success, money, and freedom.   Think of all of those well-known cliché sayings (most of them coming from the US) : > The early bird gets the worm. > The more you work, the more you make.  > A penny saved is a penny earned. > Climb that corporate ladder.  Generations of money wounds and trauma have gotten passed on to us.  Without unpacking and addressing all of your beliefs…you will end up operating out of a broken system. Many of my clients come to me sick of feeling… Exhausted, and working so damn hard for their money. Resentful of their career or business, because it’s sucking the life out of them.  Frustrated, as they see other people have the freedom they want, but can’t seem to get there on their own.  To go from Thousandaire to Millionaire status, a different way of thinking is required. You need a new operating system that is designed for a different level of success.  Essentially new programming that’s specifically code

 You owe it to yourself to do this… It’s easy to get caught up in focusing on how much something will cost you. “Ugh that so expensive” “I don’t want to spend that right now.” “What if it doesn’t work?” This is a natural human fear response…and what does FEAR stand for > False Evidence Appearing Real  Anytime we allow fear to make our choices for us, we end up paying a big price.  One of my private clients said to me on our application call that she “didn’t know if she could afford to work with me right now.”  My initial thought is always a slightly annoyed, “ummmm ok, then why did you apply to work with me?”  Then I quickly remember that her fear is running the show right now, just as mine does when I go to invest in my business in a major way.  So I asked her, “What is your plan to get to where you want to be in your business if you don’t hire me to show you how?”  I asked this question to move her into the logical side of her brain, and out of the emotional fight, flight or freeze response.  Her reply, “I

Money relaxing explained… Ever notice how fresh Ideas and creative inspiration come to you while you’re in the shower, on vacation, on enjoying wine with friends???  This isn’t by chance; this is because your nervous system is in a relaxed state allowing you to receive. Also notice how the more you TRY to think of something, figure it out, remember that name, the further it pulls away from you. Then when you finally let it go, it comes to you ?!  Forcing energy = repelling abundance  Allowing energy = attracts abundance  The key here is to keep yourself in that relaxed state around the thing you want to manifest as much as possible. Here are some of my favorite ways: Taking a bath Going on an abundance walk  Solo dance party  Focusing on the beauty of something in nature for 3-5 minutes  (a flower, a plant, the ocean )  So what is something you can do daily to shift yourself into a relaxed and receiving state?  This new Special Money Mindset podcast series is designed to help you navigate your money blocks

There’s a lot of crap being shared on Instagram.  If you watch enough of it, the “advice” all starts to contradict itself and will make your brain spin with “this is too hard.”  Social media marketing isn’t hard; it’s actually simple.  Listening to all the noise out there is like having 17 cooks in the kitchen, pure chaos with terrible results.  When I first started this Instagram account from scratch 4.5 years ago, I must have signed up for at least 15 different low-cost and free training promising to have me grow my audience by the thousands in 30 days.  Not one of them ever gave me any real payoff. The bottom line when it comes to creating Reels that covert to clients and cash: Stop obsessing over the views. In general, my highest converting reels have the lowest views (same with all of my clients).  > Create a mix of reels, ones designed to grow your audience with ideal clients, ones designed to convert those strangers into customers.  > All roads stem from and lead to your ideal client. If your ideal cli

It took me 10 years!!! I still can’t fully comprehend that it took me ten fucking years to start ProjectME the podcast and business coaching brand after I got idea while recovering from spine surgery.  It’s insane how fast time goes by, how in the hell is it August already?  I’m not sharing this story to put you in a panic, but you need a fire lit under your ass. We can always make money, but we can never get time back.  You’ve been wasting time, putting off things you dream of doing, having a life that brings you peace and freedom…oh you’ll get back at it in the fall or on Monday, or when the kids are a bit older. BULLSH*T. That is exactly what I bought into, and before I knew it I wasted 10 years that I can’t get back.  This doesn’t mean you have to adopt some all-or-nothing mentality, that doesn’t end well either. But you need to take some action and work towards it.  If you aren’t working towards your desired life, you are working against it.  Let that sink in for a moment.  You’ve been settling for less.

Sis stop workin’ plan B when you want a plan A life.  Shiz looks really messy right now. If you watch or read the news it appears the world is crashing….which is why I don’t watch that crap.  But it’s hard not to pick up the general fear energy going around…the problem isn’t if you feel fear right now, the problem is if you do nothing to shift out of it.   That fear state will only repel abundance, and then further validate the money noise that’s circling your brain.   You have to make a deliberate and conscious choice to seek out evidence of abundance when your mind is pulling you towards scarcity.  The real estate market is at an all-time high: the average sales price of a home in the US is up 32% from 2021. Homes are selling faster than they have in 15 years!  Americans are spending 18% more in 2022 than in 2020.  The coaching industry is expected to go to 14.2 BILLION dollars this year!  Whatever you focus on will grow.  If focus on the vast amount of abundance in the world, you will attract it.  If you

25k a Month is Simple. The issue is you’re making it hard. Believe me, I know…I stayed in my own way for YEARS and didn’t know to get around myself.  Assumptions pop up once you allow yourself to dream bigger and desire more.  Your ego starts coming up with crap that you believe is required to achieve that goal, and it’s always stuff you’re currently lacking.  To grow my coaching business to 25k months I would need: > A team  > Some special certification  > Tech skills  > To be more interesting…well spoken…have more followers Who told you this crap? Probably no one…all assumptions you’ve come up with are based on watching other coaches on the internet.  Ask and answer this question > If you knew it was completely possible for you to make 25k a month consistently just as you are today, would you go ALL IN and do the damn thing?  Now the “yeah buts” start in….” yeah but, I’m not as ______ as you Tiffany. “Yeh but, I don’t have ______.” See how your own ego is trying to money-block you?  This episode is designed

This almost got me fired.  I was hired as a TV News Reporter for NBC before I even officially had my college diploma.  My tenacity, determination, and a false sense of confidence allowed me to beat out thousands of others for the job.  I thought my education and four TV internships prepared me for this job…but doing it in real life for real pay was a completely different level of pressure.  The deadlines were insane! I had to find interview subjects, do the on-camera interview, verify sources, write the script, edit the piece, and record promos for the story in a matter of a couple of hours…there was no time for perfection.  While I was barely putting together one story by the hard deadline, the other more experienced reporters had THREE stories done! After 6 weeks My News Director (Boss) pulled me aside and said,” Carter, you’ve gotta start pulling your weight around here…you need to work faster.” I was shell-shocked. The only way I could do that was by not caring if it was perfect, and just trusting my init

One of the most overlooked and deadly addictions… Alcohol, pills, gambling, and even food addictions are the obvious ones… There’s a widespread addiction that is likely slowly killing you right now.  It’s causing you stress, suffering, financial, relationship, and major quality of life issues.  Damn it is cunning… The addiction of doing TOO MUCH..the addiction to always doing, instead of simply being.  Our egos and society programming manipulate us into feeling like we aren’t doing enough…so if we just do more, be more productive, get more crap done then we will achieve our desired result (whether that be happiness, success, significance, appreciation, etc…).  When in fact DOING TOO MUCH is the problem. This is what’s blocking your abundance.  Even thinking that you have to do more or be more is a scarcity belief.  I can hear that inner critical voice of yours right now saying,” well Tiffany I can’t just sit back and do whatever the hell I want and expect things to happen.”  If you had a version of this thoug

This is going to piss people off. In no way am I excusing or minimizing anyone’s abusive or hurtful behavior in your life…this has to be discussed. We are the common denominator in our lives, our work, our relationships…so when something is happening on repeat, it is not because you’re a “magnet for toxic people,” or that you “weren’t meant to make a lot of money.” It’s because your nasty inner bully has convinced you of some BS that isn’t true.  Likely you’ve been gaslighting and emotionally abusing yourself all without fully realizing the consequences of it.  In my childhood, I was taught that I was too much, a burden, and not worthy of unconditional love.  So unknowingly I carried those beliefs for decades into my adult life and acted out of those beliefs.  > Accepting scraps in relationships.  > Tolerating abusive behavior from people.  > Avoiding following my true dreams, and settling for a “good enough” corporate career.  Of course, I wasn’t able to repair decades of self-abuse overnight, but it also di