Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us!   "If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing”   “We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.”   “Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know an

Recap of the summit What happens when we start having real conversations? Community/support Seeing participants in real life Recognizing our attachments and course correcting Gratitude to guests Gratitude to participants $109 and it is your for eva   Saw Brene Brown Seen before Appreciate her realness Familiar stories Story of daughter swimming and conversation around being brave IS winning Are these the conversations we are having with our kids? Are we explicit?   What we notice and what we speak Life skills/qualities Negativity bias How often they ARE using tools/skills – it’s just when they don’t if feels so PAINFUL Our expectation of mastery Layers going on under the surface (meaning of behavior with Alison Smith 110, Iceberg Metaphor solo show 129)   What it takes to stay focused under the surface Vulnerability and humility – it may not be about you Faith Trust/surrender – let go of your attachment to how you think it should be, and also the idea that you KNOW what’s happening for

Today’s guest is Rachel Butler. She is an executive and professional coach, an organizational health expert, a wife and mother of 2 boys she is one of those unique women who is both powerhouse and presence. She's a master in organizational systems and she's worked with over 325 organizations. Rachel embodies what it means to be an empowered woman and a conscious mom. Rachel and her mama business partner Gillian Rowinski are the voices behind Unlearning SuperMom a feminist website that supports equal rights and opportunities for women and empowering all of us. We will be discussing Unlearning SuperMom. Join us!   "Our culture has clearly defined what being a good mom should look like and it is oppressive. The martyrdom of being busy, being agreeable, putting everyone else first, running yourself ragged. If super mom is who we become when we are in this world with our eyes closed then unlearning her is a deeply courageous feminist act.”   “Are we doing it because it's a “should” or are we doing it because it’s

Today is a solo show all about being the calm inside the storm. That is the dream, isn’t it?? Listen in as I tease apart what this means and offer ideas and strategies around hwo to get there more often.   ·     Parenting class ·     Summit ·     Podcast conversations ·     E+R=O ·     Events and experiences…. 3 Bs ·     What if nothing changes? ·     What if all we have is how we feel inside of the experience? ·     What do we want to BE/FEEL/CREATE?? ·     Feedback matters – internal vs external validation ·     Parenting is a PART of our life that can feel like our WHOLE life ·     Energy of emotion ·     Personal work, small steps with Sid, ACES with Sarah – unlearning supermom ·     Stuck in what it should look like ·     What about acceptance of what is? What about surrender to not knowing the outcome? ·     Influence yes. Hard work and practice, yes. ·     AND you decide how to respond from life --- worry fear, that is the present moment experience you create. Openness, love, that is the present moment

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::: Join Patreon Sign up to be a part of the Patreon community today!! You will enjoy monthly webinars, online coaching and support from a caring community of like minded parents. Click here for more information. ::: Today’s guest is Sara Harvey Yao. Sara is a leadership consultant who has developed more than 4,000 leaders across the globe. She specializes in helping leaders navigate pressure and stress by staying present in the moment. Sara is the author of two books, Get Present and Drop In. She’s the mother of two teen boys and can speak firsthand to how the power of presence can transform the parenting experience. We will be discussing. Join us!   "Naming feelings opens the doorways for the energy of emotion to metabolize.” “When we’re in emotion, we’re in a different part of our brain than the language center so it’s often hard to articulate what we’re feeling

Happy New Year!! Hope everyone had an easy breezy holiday. Grateful to friends and family and all the ways we were supported to enjoy the season.  So much to be excited about. Compassion and integrity. Today, I am going to share a bit about a book I am reading that is really blowing my mind, it is called The Path is Everywhere; uncovering the jewels hidden within you, by Matt Lacata. If you’ve listened to the show for very long, you know that I love my energy worker/reiki master friend (shout out to Jessica) and she has turned me on to the work of Matt. I am using this book as part of my soul care time, reading a few pages in the morning to gather inspiration. I am not very far into the book, and what I read this morning gave me pause and I decided that now would be the perfect time to bring it here to discuss with all of you. The first part of the book is about what the author calls our “shadow” – this is the part of ourselves that lays dormant until it is jostled into wakefulness. Another way to make sense

Today’s content: Parenting through the self doubt and worry Parenting teens – why have a separate group? What is missing from the resources? The continuum of behavior Attachment and getting a life Intuition and trusting your gut It gets ugly Feeling isolated/shame/ Lisa Fuller episode 87 Why meditation/yoga/journaling matters What it really means to be aware The tight rope Kimberly Muench eps 158 Pendulum swing Trust and surrender over and over again It’s a crap shoot – the myth of “good parenting” It’s their journey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Stacy Davison. Stacy is an instructional coach, entrepreneur, new mom to a rainbow baby boy. Last year Stacy and her husband started the company Personal Peptalk, a line of motivational and uplifting products which they design, illustrate, and self-publish. In her weekly motivational email on her podcast Stacy candidly shares how she dominates life challenges more mindfully. We will be discussing positivity in parenting and life. Join us! "It’s easy to meditate up on the mountain top but eventually you have to come down and buy groceries.”   What you’ll hear in this episode: Finding zen where we are - preparing for the Super Bowl moments The challenges of motherhood and the importance of being real about that Shifting perspective on suffering Choosing love, joy and compassion in moments of difficulty How hanging onto suffering hurts us Letting go of people pleasing to ask for what you need Positivity in times of sorrow Supporting friends in times of loss Love bombs - what they are, h

Solo show! News: No shows in December, Happy Holidays! January Parenting Teens Audio Summit, YAY!! Launching the first of January – stay tuned to register Summit is live January 21st – 25th Validation, inspiration, nuggets to PRACTICE Patreon Woop woop Alternative to membership program Opportunity to be in exchange of energy patreon.com/joyfulcourage $1, $5, $10/month options $10 private FB group, Chaos to Calm Ecourse, monthly Webinar based on the questions that are coming up in the group   This week’s content: Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers Toolbox metaphor Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment) The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom We can always do better Relationship matters!!!!!! When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh w

Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us! "None of us should feel alone.” “People are children and they just want to belong.” “God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.” “We have to come together now, more than ever.” What you’ll hear in this episode: How Irvine Hebrew Day School handled the tragedy in Pittsburgh Developmental appropriate levels of information about tragic events Balancing the feelings of parents and children in the

Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us! "Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.” “A lot of parenting is about experimentation.” “You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.” “We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.” What you’ll hear in this episode: -Journaling as a way to maintain perspective -Examining our principles of parenting -Deciding what kind of people we want to raise -Personal growth and parenting - how they relate -Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents -Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads -Finding bal

Solo Show this week! First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life.  This week I am talking about our boys. Toxic Masculinity We have to do better for our boys Partners – emotional intelligence is for everyone Posturing Fragile Egos Curiosity Routine of talking about how we feel It’s not coddling – if we keep toughening them up and having them suppress how they feel we will continue to see cultures where war and violence exist Not blaming Not from a place of fear We all get to be full humans Boys and their fear of labels Build Skills More than just “walk away” Saving face w/o being a dick Being a champion People like him. He can take criticism, doesn’t make people choose friends, and doesn’t blow off someone for a better offer. When people are harassed or demeaned, he intervenes.

Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us!  What you’ll hear in this episode: -Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home -Taking back your power after trauma -What is EMDR and how can it help you heal? - How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations -How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles - The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations - Resisting the urge to “fix” - Understanding generational patterns - The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior -How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves t

Solo show – sharing from personal experience Recap what is happening with my teenager If you listened last year, you heard the struggle Online school Clients I’ve worked with Friends confiding in their experience What the stats say My experience of finding information What my gut tells me The ways the world has changed Why it’s so hard Weight of fear/possible outcomes Lack of control Our own stories PD is belonging and significance Power of perception What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed The challenge of meeting them where they’re at My experience with this…. Not knowing what this means The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being The iceberg Tip of the iceberg They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out Grades/friends/activities Bad after school special Under the surface Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling Feelings of disconnection Out of cont

Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: -Pampering the mind, body and the spirit -The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters -Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs -Getting past our own default mode -The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom -When you feel bad about being good to self -The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default -Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it -Finding a new default for sacred self-care -The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing -Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility

Returning to the practice What Positive Discipline is to me…. Belong significance Iceberg Encouragement Kind and firm Presence/seeing/listening  What I have learned over time My own beliefs get in the way Fear manifests as control and rigidity Trust is the theme of my life What it means to have a practice Taking care of me Exploring worthiness Developing intention Modeling what I want Returning to the basics Check assumptions Read and learn about development! What speaks to you??? So many people and programs…. What/who makes sense to you? Where do you feel seen? Things to keep in mind There is no perfect Spirituality/energetics matter – this is bigger than me Its messy, not formulaic Blame serves no one There is no end point Finding a sense of peace inside of the chaos is life goals Comparing is not useful – ever You are the parent your child picked, not because you are perfect, but because you are you. Parenting is an opportunity to heal old wounds, to mend relationships, and grow

Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us! "I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.” “We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.” “What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?” “You cannot give what you do not have.”  “These bumps is where we grow character.” “You can be right or you can be in relationship." What you’ll hear in this episode: -When children arrive at adolescence - The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens - Choosing your battles - Defining your family values - Setting an example for yo

SOLO SHOW!! Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine. I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition. And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!  I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us!   "There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be."   “We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.”   “Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.”   “Really, it’s about doing less.”   What you’ll hear in this episode: - The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids - Sustainable ambition the

SOLO SHOW – woohoo Let’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J Connecting dots with Eps 154 Dan Siegel interview The ability to sift through the experience you’re having and everything that is calling inside of you – and create space to show up as our best selves We all have an inner knowing, inner voice – where we can tap into deep wisdom Making sense of our spiritual experience Finding intuition while navigating my parenting How conditioning supports/gets in the way How do we tease apart intuition from fear/conditioning/doubt “What if the first hit is true?” “What if our stories and experiences are offered to us to develop our intuition?” Growing our “hub of awareness” requires practice PRACTICE MATTERS Becoming an outside observer takes practice We move towards what is familiar Sacred Contracts Caroline Myss Trust What happens when we choose in to the practice of developing space for our intuition? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices