Sex With Emily

What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve. Show Notes: PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SmartMouth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal without hurting yourself? Plus, how do you find friends and community when you’ve just entered the BDSM lifestyle? And how do you maximize your partner’s pleasure? All this and more on today’s pleasure points show. Show Notes: How to Have Great Sex During Perimenopause, Menopause and Beyond PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure #open FetLife OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Je Joue (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Kivin Method: 5 Sexy Positions to Try This

Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques and toys, so you can keep your pilot light lit and feel erotic all the time. Plus, I take your questions: the difference between internal and external orgasms, arousal ideas for vulva-owners, how to approach sex with a new partner when you’ve been out of the game for a while, and much more. Show Notes: Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day 5 Last-Minute, Ultra-Sexy Valentine’s Ideas PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure HigherDOSE Sauna Blanket Breathing App: Apple | Google Play Je Joue: Vita | Amour | Duet (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF) When it’s Time to Un

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I’ll be answering all your questions to create amazing Valentine’s Sex, including body-positive sex positions, how to have sex when one or both of you is tired, and how to lean into your sub side when you’ve been domming for decades. Show Notes: 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent & Sexual Attractiveness PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure HiNote App Eye Of Love (code EMILY for 15% off sitewide) SmartMouth LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy? This episode is brought to you by

Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Next, we talk DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl, a kink that might be exactly what you’re looking for…but only with the right boundaries. Finally, I get into green flags and red flags with your partner, and how to spot toxic traits before you’re in too deep. Show Notes: 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent and Sexual Attractiveness Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Article: How to Start a DDLG Dynamic Article: The Truth About DDLG As Told by

A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t want to open up about their sexual preferences, to growing tired of the same old routine - I offer ideas from gamifying your sexual communication to taking penetration off the table. We’ll also hear plenty of real-life success stories of couples reviving their intimacy, which I know will inspire you to do the same. If it’s better sex that you and your partner want, there’s hope on the horizon.  Show Notes: Sex Drive Boosting Workouts Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Yes No Maybe List, Mutual Masturbation Guide, & More LELO SONA 2 Cruise Lube Shooter

Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to give you great oral? Or how about when you go down on your partner, but they refuse to kiss you afterwards – should you say something? And what if your penis-owning partner can’t finish…no matter how good your oral game is? I’ll also discuss how porn can distort what we think is good oral sex, so you can take what you need from the screen and leave the rest to your IRL abilities. Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 LELO TOR 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Podcast: Sex Toys for Penis Owners Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Min

Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode.  Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 VUSH Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play) Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides EMDRIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show.  Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy? Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Podca

Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand LELO Tor 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Boston Scientific treatment options for ED PRP Injections (John Hopkins Medical) Podcast: Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward Karpman SKYN Condoms One C

Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Je Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical Porn Podcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell XConfessions.com TryQuinn This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off yo

Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10%

Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 VUSH Empress 2 (code SWE50 for 50% off) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides Article: How to Have More Sensual Sex Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell a New Partner About My Fantasies? Article: What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things This episode is brought to y

Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 Odela Health (use this link for $50 off your 1st prescription) 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Lake Bell’s New Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin More Lake Bell: Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send off, from Emily with love.  Show Notes: Article: How to Write Your New Year’s Sex Resolutions Magic Wand Breathe App Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed Podcast: Your Sex Language w/ Dr. Jen Freed Podcast: How to Relationship Better w/ John Kim a & Vanessa Bennett Podcast: Best Blow Job Ever Podcast: Orgasms with a Capital O Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game Changer Podcast: Sex + Creativity w/ Liz Goldwyn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priv

Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but after a threesome gone wrong, she’s worried he’ll leave. How can she alleviate her anxiety and share her fears? Finally, we define compersion and discuss what to do when your partner wants a threesome… but you don’t. We get into all this and more on today’s hotline show. Show Notes: Article: The Podcast Eps + Articles You Loved in 2022 Promescent Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? SWE Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & More Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy.  Show Notes: Article: How to Train Your Penis VUSH (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Next Gen Vibes) Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Podcast: What’s Your Arousal Type? The 36 Questions That Lead to Love OhMiBod blueMotion Panty Vibe Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T Fleur Du Mal x SWE Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order) Je Joue Luxury Massage Candle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inform

Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this and more in today’s fan favorite best of episode.  Show Notes: Emily on Call Her Daddy: How to Have an Orgasm | 104- The Roadmap to his A**hole | 96- The Orgasm Gap & Forced Sex Fantasies Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners More Alex Cooper: Instagram | Twitter Call Her Daddy: Website | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to communicate your way to better alignment. From a caller who misses the drama and excitement their sex life once had, to another whose partner’s medication has caused his desire to be depleted - I’ll break down step by step how to broach this sensitive subject. Because if left unaddressed, issues around sex can be fatal to a relationship - and working through it will only make you and your partner stronger. Show Notes: Article: Best Sexy Stocking Stuffers 2022 FirmTech Tech Ring (Emily20 for 20% off) Article: These Are the 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed Hosted on Aca