Sex With Emily

We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind working out. Bethany also shares why sex takes on a new, rich depth when we learn to connect with our movement on a daily basis. Afterwards, I’ll answer questions from listeners struggling to accept their own bodies. Because if we can’t learn to love our own bodies, how can we share them intimately with someone else? Show Notes: Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty, They Double As Art Article: Ask Emily: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Promescent More Bethany C. Meyers: Instagram | Twitter The Become Project: Website | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season. I’ll also break down the science behind them that makes them so effective. If you’re looking to create your own pleasure goals for the new year, these products are a great place to start. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty they Double as Art Book: Court of Thorns Guide: The Pleasure Planner 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Good Vibrations Je Joue (Emily30 for 30% off all products) OhMiBod bluMotion NEX1 Wearable Panty Vibrator Lelo Sona 2 Cruise B-Vibe Triplet Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager Playground Lube (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st orde

It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in parenting and a lack of having a father during his own childhood. On today’s best-of show, Larry breaks down his four pillars of a good marriage (which absolutely includes sex), as well as how to talk to sons about sex, porn and masturbation. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Vush Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play) More Larry Hagner: The Dad Edge | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5,000 American singles ages 18-89 as part of Match’s annual Singles in America survey, and the results are fascinating. People dating more consciously - hookup culture is dead, and singles are prioritizing things like political awareness rather than looks. We’ll unpack their findings and why today’s singles should be more optimistic than ever about finding their match. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: Cold Weather Date Ideas 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Singles in America Study More Dr. Helen Fisher: Website More Dr. Justin Garcia: Kinsey Institute Bio | Instagram

What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we could tell our younger selves. I also asked for your hottest college sex stories, and you absolutely understood the assignment. All this and more on today’s best of show. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: A Submissive’s Guide to Being Dominant Promescent Delay Spray & Arousal Gel Article: Is Casual Sex Right For You? Article: 7 Books to Teach Your Kids About Queer Sex & Identity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Promescent Delay Spray & More Article: I’ve Never Had An Orgasm Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Article: How To Respond When Your Partner Can’t Stay Hard The Yes No Maybe List & Other SWE Guides Episode: More Sex, Le

Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together? On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays LELO HUGO (code ‘EMILY’ for 25% off all products) Article: The Kivin Method Article: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Article: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Episode: What’s Your Arousal Type? The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions) Article: How Do I Have Good Sex During Menopause? Hormone Intelligence by Aviva Romm, MD  Article: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling

Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection. In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated  VUSH (code ‘EMILYBFCM’ for 60% off Empress 2 OR Big O Bundle) More Tom Goss: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.  Show Notes: Article: The Different Kinds of Unconventional Couples Article: The Guide to a Successful Friends with Benefits Relationship Article: Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Playground Je Joue (use code ‘Emily30’ for 30% off) #Open Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it.  Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or your partner’s? What if your partner takes a while to orgasm during oral, but your jaw gets tired along the way? From hangups to hygiene - I answer your questions so you can amp up your oral and enhance your pleasure. Show Notes: VUSH Destination: Play (code ‘SEXWITHEMILY’ for 40% off) Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner.  But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and why you may need them at all. And that’s why on today’s episode, I’m myth-busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer, to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply can’t reach - if there’s a penis in your life, I’ve got the toy for it. Show Notes: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Magic Wand Playground (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Aneros Helix Trident Promescent Delay Spray Article: How Do I Buy My Boyfriend a Sex Toy? Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo / Duo Fleshlight Tenga LELO HUGO (EMILY for 25% off all products) Fun Fac

First comes love, then comes anal. Isn’t that how the song goes? On today’s best of show, we’re talking your sexual firsts: your first dating app, oral sex experience, anal play, and so much more. I help you face your fears so you can radically expand your pleasure potential.  Up first: she’s 32 weeks pregnant and wants to keep her partner satisfied – but she’s never given him oral. Where to begin? He wants his wife to experience sex with another woman, so they can have their first threesome. But is she truly into the idea or just going along with it to please him? And last but not least - she’s got a play partner who wants to try anal, but has her reservations regarding pain and hygeine. How do you avoid a messy situation? We will unravel all this and more. Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Ask Emily: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Rela

Sexual fantasies are not only normal, they’re a key component of your sexual health. But why are we attracted to certain fantasies? And is it normal to have certain fantasies, or no fantasies at all? On this episode, I reveal your top sex fantasies and why you have them. I also divulge your fantasy success stories and questions, from CNC to cuckolding. I give you tips for expanding your erotic imagination. Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? Your Guide to Consensual Non-Consent Ask Emily: How to Become More Dominant In Bed Pegging 101: How to Try Strap-On Sex The Beginner’s Guide to Role-Play The 5 Best Ways to Have Sex Outside How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship? What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So what’s the hardest part about dating? Meeting people? Making conversation? Figuring out if there’s enough chemistry? How do you have dates that leave you happy, aligned and energized, rather than defeated and hopeless? On today’s best-of show, I’m here for your dating dilemmas. He’s new to dating, and nervous to talk to women – I give some talking points. She wants to have sex, but also wants it to be more than casual – I help refine her approach. He’s super honest about being polyamorous, but they think he needs to grow up – I coach him on how to find the right partners, while still being open. Because when it comes to dating, your people are out there – you just have to learn how to look.  Show Notes: Higher Dose Infrared Sauna Blanket (use code EMILY 15% off sitewide**) Got A Sex or Relationship Question? Call me. Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Relationship? How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile Is Casual Sex Right For You? What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship?  **(excluding Full Si

We’re all looking for better ways to have sex. But what if I told you the thing holding you back is your own beliefs around sex and sexuality? My guest today knows a thing or two about how to realize our own sexual well-being. Author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz is a sexual wellness connoisseur. In her new book Sex, Health & Consciousness, Liz explains how to build a sexual consciousness for a radically happier, healthier life. She’ll help me answer your questions on masturbation, shame, BDSM, and how to rewire the way we think about pleasure.  Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pre-Order Liz’s Book: Sex, Health, and Consciousness More Liz Goldwyn: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got relationship drama? Don’t we all. On today’s Best of show, I’m helping you navigate choppy relationship waters, to get to the other side safely. First up: he just divorced, and jumped right into an ultra-serious relationship. Too soon? Next: when you’ve got a massive crush on your coworker, should you divorce your spouse and pursue your colleague instead? And if you’re not so into your partner’s bedroom style, can you teach them to be more dominant? All this and more on a particularly juicy Best Of show.  Show Notes: Article: You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives Article: What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Love Life Podcast: The Clit Notes XConfessions.com Article: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Foria: Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo Aneros Helix Trident Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you know me, you know that my dream is to have a bottle of lube on every nightstand. But why? Enhanced pleasure is one reason. And on this episode, I’ll give you several more.  Think of this as your consumer reports on lube: I’m answering all of your lube inquiries, giving you the low-down on key ingredients, and helping you reach for the right lube at the right time. I’m also breaking down the science behind lube’s benefits, and walking you through the best options for every type of sexual occasion.   Show Notes: Article: How To Find The Best Lube For You Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order) Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Sliquid Silk System Jo Coconu OhLavinia Foria CBD Intimacy Oil GoLove CBD Intimate Lube First Response Pre-Seed Good Clean Love Biogenesis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to penis parts, do you know which ones are rich with nerve endings? Which areas need a gentle touch? And which can handle more force? On today’s Best of show, I’ll give you tips for penile pleasure from head to shaft, perineum to prostate. We also take your listener questions: when you’re in a long term relationship, who should initiate sex? If you’re not turned on by your partner of nearly a decade, what’s next? And when you’ve been masturbating for years, but discovered your entire family could hear you…how do you deal? We’ll cover all this and more.  Show Notes: Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order)  10 (Super Hot) Ways to Pleasure a Penis  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward.  And if you want your questions answered on the next Hotline Call show, please reach out! You can leave messages online at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily or by calling 559-TALK-SEX (825-5739). Just leave your name, age, where