Sex With Emily

Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today. In her new book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a longterm relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner. Show Notes: More: Radical Confidence More Lisa: Instagram  How to Find The Best Lube for You Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So listen: is sex addiction real? We’ve all heard stories of infidelity followed by explanations of sex addiction as the reason for the behavior. But the truth is, just because someone cheats doesn’t mean they’re a sex addict.  According to therapist Marnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing, sex addiction is indeed real: it’s an intimacy disorder with both emotional and physiological symptoms. On this best of show, Marnie and I talk about the common and compulsive behaviors of sex addiction, the deep human need for love and connection, affordable treatment options, love addiction, a how-to on IMAGO therapy (a great tool for communication) and healing steps for couples.  Show Notes: More Marnie: Website | Instagram  Sex Addicts Anonymous Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that masturbation helps you sleep better? Tones your pelvic floor? And – surprise – boosts your immunity? But let’s be honest: these aren’t exactly the main reasons people masturbate. You masturbate because it’s pleasurable, but as the OG form of self-care, masturbation delivers all kinds of benefits, physically and psychologically.  That’s why today’s show kicks off a two-part masturbation series, and later in the month, we’ll look at how masturbation benefits a partnership. On today’s episode however, it’s all about YOU: common masturbation fantasies, how to mix up a stale masturbation routine, how to make your solo sex more erotic, and how to practice mindful masturbation. Plus, I take your questions! Can a vibrator desensitize your clitoris? All this and more on Part 1 of our Masturbation Pro Tips Series.  Show Notes: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundhal The Sex with Emily Shop page  Our Edging Guide  Our Yes No Maybe List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a misconception out there, that once women become moms, their sexiest years are OVER. But as my guest Dana Myers explains, that’s nonsense – and as a mom, she can prove it. Dana is the founder of sex and beauty brand Booty Parlor, but she’s also a wife and mother to two children. On today’s throwback show, she shares secrets from her book “The Mommy Mojo Makeover” to help women rediscover their sensual self-confidence, fall back in love with their bodies, and masturbate for self-care. We also talk about resentment in a relationship (and how to fix it), and why mothers deserve a sense of sexual entitlement. Yes moms: you deserve sexual pleasure! If you want more of it – or know a mom who might – this is a can’t miss conversation.  For More Dana B Myers: Booty Parlor | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Try Dana’s pheromone fragrance & use code DANA15 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: communication is a lubrication. But today I’ve got the receipts: previous callers who took my communication advice called back, to give us a status report! On today’s best of show, I’m letting you listen in on my callers’ sex lives after they took the brave but vulnerable step of talking to their partners. We’ve got a longtime married couple, with a husband who wants more kink in bed; a success story of treating vaginal pain; a newlywed who brought BACK the spark with his man after incorporating role play, and a mom who never had any sex guidance growing up…and is now doing things radically different with her teen daughter. All of them are living proof that better sex starts with communication, so listen now, get inspired, and let their sex-cess motivate you to have a sex talk of your own. Show Notes: Emily’s Shop Page The Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Audio porn is one of the most brilliant sex tech innovations of the past few years. It’s immersive, discreet, and super intimate – you literally feel like you’re in the room with people who are having sex. Plus…it’s a great way to ratchet up your own dirty talk or your masturbation routine.  So on today’s best of episode, I’m sharing my conversation with Caroline Spiegel, creator of Quinn: an audio erotica app that was one of the first to market. We talk about audio porn and solo sex, how to use audio erotica with a partner, and a special bonus! Caroline and I listen to some audio erotica together, including a guided masturbation clip. Plus, we take your questions like, enjoying porn as a blind individual, how to embrace a naturally sexy voice, and – wild card – can you really be allergic to semen? Find out on today’s show. More Try Quinn: Website | Apple App Store | Android App Store | Instagram | Twitter Show Notes: How Do I Explore Bisexuality While In a Relationship? The Yes No Maybe List  Hosted on

Just like going to the gym improves your body, going to therapy improves your mind. And bonus: couple’s counseling can radically improve your relationship and your sex life. So why do some people absolutely refuse to go? On today’s show, I’m giving you the therapy low-down, so you can decide whether you should try it – or, if it’s the right call for you and your partner. I’m talking: signs it’s time to look for a therapist, pros and cons of solo therapy vs. couple’s counseling, whether sex therapy is right for you, what to expect from a typical therapy session, and how to find therapy that works for you – including budget-friendly options. Plus, I take your therapy-related questions on porn addiction, sexual trauma and what to do if you tried to improve your sex life with your partner…but they cheated anyway.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists Book: The Body Keeps The Score  Book: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone  Maximize Your O

When you’re desperate to fix your sex life with your partner, what do you do? (You call me, of course.) Maybe the sex started hot, but got real boring. Or maybe you and your crush are finally hooking up…but the sex is meh, and it’s a huge letdown. What now? On today’s Best Of hotline show, I’m sharing some of my favorite listener questions and letting you listen in as we talk through solutions. We’ve got sex-stonewalling partners. Compersion vs. cuckholding. A self-described “lazy lover.” Bisexuality, plus a squirting tutorial. Trust me, if you’ve got the right communication skills, you can talk through anything: and on this episode, I help you make those sex talks way less gnarly.  Show Notes: Our Yes No Maybe List  Emily’s Shop Page  The Magic Wand The Womanizer  Boston Scientific  New Low T Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to sex, a lot of us have a movie in our head about the way it “should” go down. I should look a certain way. They should kiss me a certain way. We should have epic orgasms. In other words, picture perfect... But here’s the real real: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you can get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your five senses. Together we can remove the mental blocks from orgasm. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, these are sensory tools you can use to seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O. Plus, I take your questions: how to talk dirty without swearing, how to bring back an MIA orgasm, how to stop disassociating during sex and much more. Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Partner I’ve Been Faking Orgasms The Fin by Dame Podcast: Where Did My Orgasm Go? Our Communication Guide  Talk Dirty to Me w/ Joanna Angel Hosted on Aca

To create our hottest, most fulfilling sex life, there’s one critical thing we need – and no, it’s not flavored lube. We need boundaries, and the ability to express them to others. But what is a “boundary,” exactly? As a buzzword and an emerging concept, boundaries can improve every relationship, sexual or otherwise. So on today’s best-of show, sex therapist, author and my dear friend Dr. Jennifer Freed and I help you figure out what your boundaries are, how to set them with others (and follow through), and how to NOT let people steamroll over your values…especially when you’re a people pleaser.   For more Dr Jennifer Freed: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you actually want to feel during sex? On today’s best-of episode, my friends Celeste Hirshman & Danielle Harel, co-authors of Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility, help reveal your core desires – your personal, psychological motivation for having sex, and how to get that feeling in the moment. Celeste, Danielle and I talk about how sex can be a medicine for old wounds we felt growing up: whether you want to feel powerful, special, even degraded in bed – it all goes back to our personal history, and what we’re looking for when we have sex. We also talk about creating your hottest sexual movie, how to perform sexual breathing, and why – if you want sex to last in a long-term relationship – you really have to do this core desire work. It’s a can’t miss episode of sexual wisdom, whether you’re single, partnered, or simply want to know what gets you hot. For more Celeste, Danielle & Somatica Institute: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Fa

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it.   We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions on trust and infidelity: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell My Partner I Don’t Like Something?  The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation For More Information on EMDR Therapy Tips for Better Communication Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you’re ready to date. Fantastic! But are you feeling a little rusty on flirting? Making the first move? And, real talk: how’s your dating app profile?  Today’s show is your dating primer 101, so you can walk into every date knowing exactly what you want: whether it’s a long-term partner, or a just-for-the-night hookup. I’m talking how to meet people, how to make sexy conversations, how to take your best dating app pics, and what people are looking for when they’re on a date. Plus, I take your questions! How to feel more confident saying “yes” to dates, how to express your intentions around sex, when to bring sex toys into the bedroom and much more.  Show Notes: 15 Types of Sexuality and Attraction to Help You Understand Your Desire Style Friends with Benefits: A Guide Esther Perel’s Game: So Where Should We Begin? We’re Not Really Strangers Game The Gottman Institute’s Game The Magic Wand Emily’s Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to relationships across the board – from sex, to work, to friendships – do you actually know what impression you’re having on others? Especially when you first meet someone? In this best of show, I’m throwing it back to my conversation with fellow podcaster Jordan Harbinger, who gets real on social behaviors and the power of body language.  Jordan and I talk about the difference between authenticity and hustling, confidence while dating, and the shocking power of nonverbal communication. He coaches us on developing open, positive body postures, and helps all of us walk into a room with charisma and curiosity.  For More Jordan Harbinger Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is there a vulva owner in your life you’d love to treat? By giving them the best oral sex of their life? You’ve come to the right place. Whether or not you’re with someone currently, or simply want to brush up on your oral skills for the future, it’s never a bad time to sharpen your pleasure techniques. After the blow job episode I did earlier this month I promised that you’d get an oral sex show specifically for vulvas – and it’s here. In today’s episode, I’m talking you through everything you need to know to deliver A+ oral sex, specifically for vulvas. I’m teaching how to tease, how to use your tongue, how to perform the Kivin method, and how to stimulate the famous G-spot. Plus, I take your questions!  What to do if you desperately want oral but your partner isn’t too keen on giving. How to let go of potential insecurities and truly enjoy receiving. What to do when your hygiene concerns are getting in the way of pleasure, How to reduce discomfort while giving. Plus, how to give your partner pointers on wh

Breakups completely, fundamentally suck – full stop. Especially if you’re still connected to the person: you still live together, you share friends, or…you can’t stop fantasizing about them sexually. And that’s because breakups function exactly like withdrawal: this other person was a drug of sorts, and now, you can’t get your hit.  But breakups also teach us a lot about ourselves, especially if that person was annoyingly awesome in bed. So in this episode, we’re looking at the psychology of breakups, empowering ways to cope and move on, and most importantly, how to keep nurturing your sexuality while you heal. Plus, I take your questions! How to move on from a hookup partner who’s not ready for a relationship, what it means when you’re sexting with an ex, how to do the friendship custody battle after a breakup, and how to break up when you know it’s the right thing to do…but you’re terrified to do it.  Show Notes: 7 Steps to Breakup Recovery Podcast More About EMDR Therapy The Yes No Maybe List  Hosted

If you are someone who had substandard sex ed as a young person (all of us?), you are going to love this throwback episode with Gil Ozeri, comedian, actor, and writer for the very popular show “Big Mouth”. Growing up with adults who avoided the sex talk like the plague, Gil discusses the shame that can result...shame a lot of us still carry. That’s why “Big Mouth” (now in Season 5 on Netflix) takes the awkward experience of adolescence, demystifies it, and helps all of us get the answers we wish we’d gotten back then — while being super funny. If you’ve got a young person in your life, this episode is a must-listen.  Gil and I take a dive into our own hormonal teen years, how to make sex ed more relatable, and tips for post-baby sex…because why not? I also take your questions: how to give a better blowjob, how to make FaceTime sex hot, and how to get your sexual connection back after the spark has died. For More Gil Ozeri: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privac

I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the new podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account  @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice.  In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one! For More Violet: Almost Adulting Podcast Meme Instagram | Personal Instagram | Podcast Instagram Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re talking about blow jobs. It’s an oral sex masterclass, and you’re invited.On today’s episode, I’m sharing everything you need to know about oral sex on a penis. Also, I take your blow job questions: where to start as a beginner, how to enjoy receiving, what to know when pleasuring an uncircumcised penis and what to do if you’re struggling to swallow. Don’t blow off this episode. Together, we can bring your oral sex game to the next level.  Show Notes: Everybody Loves Oral 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down On a Vulva  Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method How to Give A Better BJ  Skyn Condoms  Emily’s Shop Page Breathe App Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A great sext is all about anticipation…kind of like foreplay: And as the 21st century way to talk dirty, sexting — when executed well — can be super hot. Sexting is an art form, and in this show, I give you pro tips for perfecting yours. Because let’s face it: randomly sending a bunch of squirting emojis might not be as sexy as it is confusing, for the person on the other side.  As with everything in life, good sexting comes down to emotional intelligence, so let’s talk shop. This episode is designed to help you send your best sext, and excite the person receiving your message. Plus, I take your questions! How to start flirting online, how to manage your devices so your messages don’t accidentally end up in the wrong place and how to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship. Finally, the Sex With Emily community has delivered, and I’m sharing YOUR hottest sexts. Show Notes: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Signal Messenger What’s app  Amorus App We-Vibe Toys Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr