Freckled Foodie & Friends

In this episode, I sit down with sex therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander (from @vanessaandxander) to talk all things sex, intimacy, and relationships. We dive deep into how our upbringings shape our comfort around sex and why having open conversations around it is so important. Vanessa & Xander break down the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why mismatched libidos are totally normal, and how pleasure should be at the center of our sex lives. We get real about navigating sex after kids, using toys, and why foreplay doesn’t just start in the bedroom. Vanessa and Xander share practical tips on initiating sex, communicating needs with your partner, and the positions that actually work best.Key Takeaway / Points:What libido mismatch really means (and why it’s normal)The different types of sexual desire (spontaneous vs. responsive)Practical ways to initiate sex and navigate rejection from your partnerHow couples can reconnect even during “survival mode” as parentsThe role of toys and r