Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

Alyssa “Twist” Light is a professional speaker who helps businesses grow by utilizing the power of storytelling in every aspect of their operations, especially marketing. Twist believes it’s her responsibility to make event planners look like superheroes and the attendees feel like rockstars. Despite not having her own children, Twist happens to have fostered children, loves to be a field trip “mom” for local schools, and was the executive director of a camp that supported more than 400 underprivileged / at-risk kids. She believes that the toughest moments are the biggest learning opportunities, especially for teens.   Takeaways from the show: Fostering and mentoring teens Being open to the foster system Love doesn’t cure everything Having difficult, deep conversations can be impactful Support systems Tip of the iceberg Asking for help How kids change in the environment they’re in Reminding your partner you’re on the same team Meet kids where they’re at, not where you want them to be Being a parent

:::: This week’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Grounding meditation Awareness of what’s happening in the world Ways to support dismantling systemic racism Support your kids on how to make a difference Living in an anti-racist society Armoured vs. daring parenting Parenting from the heart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Aprile Andelle! Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in "deep dive healing" work with amazing clients all around the world.  She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help.  She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her "Every April" psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long.  She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations. She i

This week is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Mistaken goals Belonging and significance feelings live under the surface Learn to pay attention to your inner experience Review of undue attention, misguided power, and revenge Assumed inadequacy Belief behind inadequacy Teens long for connection Ways to restore your child’s adequacy Being vulnerable pays off Take time to own your behavior with your child Previous shows about mistaken goals: Eps 261 | Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Eps 267 | Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guests today are Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague.   Ted and Anna Marie are friends, parents, and anti-violence educators. They work for A Call to Men, helping men and boys promote healthy manhood and prevent violence and discrimination.   Ted works with professional athletes, business leaders, activists, and boys just like the ones you have.   Anna Marie is a storyteller at heart and a devoted boy mom. She is nationally recognized for creating and executing award-winning, multi-platform campaigns to advance critical social issues like improving education and ending violence against women.  Takeaways from the show: Prevention of violence and discrimination against women and girls How the book of dares are changing people’s lives Making an effort to talk about emotions with your boys Socialization of masculinity Being vulnerable is a strength How to support the men and boys in your life Messages men are getting from society Peer influence in middle school Developing a critical lens on how wo

Today’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Beliefs about belonging and significance Overview of mistaken goals Third mistaken goal: Revenge Tune into your experience as a parent Signs your child’s mistaken goal is revenge How adults contribute to our child’s belief of not belonging The coded message behind revenge Uncertainty of the world right now playing a part in our kid’s lives Revenge isn’t lashing out, it's passing on the hurt Tools to support you and your child in their mistaken goals Your job as parents to make your kids feel like they belong Let your child know you see them Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jud Brewer. Dr. Jud is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the “science of self-mastery”, having combined over 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein.  He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences and Psychiatry at the Schools of Public Health & Medicine at Brown University. He is also the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT. A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. Takeaways from the show: Jud’s journey with anxiety Number needed to treat Where anxiety comes from Why anxiety has increased in the past year Tools to help parents stay calm The benefits of mapping habit

This week’s episode is a SOLO show!!  Takeaways from the show: Adlerian theory Our perception of belonging and significance colors the lens we see the world out of Undue attention review Honor your kids beliefs Second mistaken goal: Misguided power Notice how your child’s behavior makes you feel Power struggles Ways adults add to this behavior The importance of teaching your kids to contribute in ways for them to use their power You are not in control of your kids Teens want the acknowledgement of how capable they are Acknowledge your part in the stuff that’s gone down with your teens House rules audit The importance of practicing follow through How to make your child feel a greater sense of belonging and significance   Coaching Page | Eps 261 | Eps 129 | Eps 177 | Eps 218 | Eps 261 | Eps 263  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Michelle Icard.    Michelle is a member of the Today show parenting team and NBC News Learn. The author of Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen and Middle School Makeover, her work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People.   Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers, Athena's Path and Hero's Pursuit, have been implemented at schools across the U.S., and her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than twenty camps each summer. She lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina.  Takeaways from the show: Being the leader and designer of your life Michelle’s new book: 14 talks by age Fourteen How lots of little conversations are more helpful than one big conversation BRIEF acronym  Conversation crashers Be specific with your kids Isolation is a part of exploring independence Sitting inside of having tough conversations with your child Having trust in your kids that they will learn from their mistakes Hav

This week’s episode is a solo show!  Takeaways from the show: Perception matters The goal of behavior is to find and feel a sense of belonging and significance Iceberg metaphor Mistaken goals: Undue attention Connection vs. attention Tune into how your kid’s behavior makes you feel Parents contribute to beliefs kids have about connection The coded message behind annoying behavior is notice me and involve me usefully Redirect by involving your kids in a useful task Say what you will do Avoid special services Plan 1 on 1 time with your kids Involve your kids in creating routines Eps 261 | Downloadable Mistaken Goal Chart  See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Pamela Ellis.  In her more than 20 years working in education research and as a financial executive in the private sector, Pamela Ellis—The Education Doctor® has emerged as a leading authority on what it takes for students to thrive in education and, thereby, in life. Her work supports parents find the school where their children can thrive—the one that feels like home. Takeaways from the show Struggles parents are going through with supporting kids for college Myths about getting into college ACT and SAT myths  Looking for a college that fits with you How soon parents of college bound kids should be making moves for their future Benefits of taking a gap year Breaking down what to think about as your kids move through each year of high school Reading for pleasure Understanding scholarships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s podcast is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Concepts and theories of Positive Discipline Belief behind behavior Iceberg metaphor  Positive discipline 101 Behaviorist vs. Positive Discipline The concept of belonging and significance School drama You must start with self reflection if you want to create lasting change Pay attention to how it feels when school drama comes up with your child The first reason for our kids to misbehave is that they desire attention and connection If kids don’t get the connection, they move on to seeking power Eps 259 | Alison Smith interview For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Alexandra Eidens.  Alexandra is the founder of Big Life Journal, a growth mindset company for children and teens. Alexandra’s company specializes in creating practical tools to help parents and teachers integrate growth mindset into their everyday lives.  Their guided journals are now used by over 500,000 children world wide. When not creating journals, Alexandra is reading the latest research on brain science and the mind-body connection.  Takeaways from the show: The foundations of Big Life Journal Nurturing a growth mindset Personal development in parenting Growth vs. fixed mindset Model the human experience to your children Be process oriented vs. outcome oriented Teach your children to set learning goals Rejection is an indication that you are putting yourself out there How to deliver feedback to your child Make a habit of learning new things Embrace struggle and adversity Compare yourself to yourself only Engage in deliberate practice Comfort vs. stretch zone Model being

Today’s podcast is a solo show! Takeaways from the show Teen Counseling The 5 Criteria of Positive Discipline Questions to ask yourself to see if the response your giving in a situation meets the criteria for Positive Discipline Come into it expecting your kids to follow through Your kids behavior lets you know what kind of experience they’re having Invite your kids into more expression of what’s going on for them Most of our mischief comes from the perception that we don’t feel like we matter Everyone has their own unique lenses they see out of Whatever we do, we want our kids to feel more connected, seen, and like they matter Trust the process Our kids learn through experience over time Celebrate mistakes, focus on solutions Model your own self-regulation Help your children discover how capable they are Recognize this isn’t a formula or a gimmick Healthy human beings are expressive Resources mentioned: Jane Nelsen Positive Discipline Website For more show notes, including transcripts, vi

My guest today is Gemma Hartley. Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10 Takeaways from the show: Gemma’s journey of being a writer The article that started her career  Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it Teasing apart emotional labor The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders What are shared standards Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason  Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone Make it normal to talk about emotional labor  Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary  When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor

This week’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show Birth story of my first child How resistance and tension can affect your relationship with your kids Recognizing your own resistance will open up a deep personal inquiry Your teen has their own experience and mistakes to make on their path of life Journal about resistance Broaden your relationships by looking into yourself to where you hold resistance Your teens emotional development is still in the process even if they look like full-grown humans Parenting for a Brave New World Summit Click here to listen to the interview with my daughter Rowan For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week my guest is Iris Chen. Iris is a writer, unschooler, and founder of the Untigering movement. After starting out as a hardcore tiger mother, she began to untiger when she saw all the negative effects of her authoritarian parenting. Now she’s on a mission to empower others families by promoting mental health, peaceful parenting, and educational freedom for children. She recently moved back to California with her husband and two sons after 16 years of living in China.  Takeaways from the show Tiger parenting and its cultural meaning Iris’ experience growing up and how that played into her parenting How patterns of how you were parented can show up into the subconscious Shifting to a different way of parenting Doing the inner work so your relationships with your kids can improve Holding space for your emotions  Learning to filter assumptions about children and parenting through a lens of love and respect and anti-oppression The swing from demanding parenting to permissive parenting Leaning int

This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: The refreshing new start of 2021 Relationships strengthening  Choosing into feeling grateful for things that exist in your life Possibilities of the present moment Practice returning to the present moment again and again Feelings about the new year What are you willing to surrender to this year What Joyful Courage stands for Growth is the purpose of everything in life Tending to relationships that matter in our life The importance of taking an opportunity to grow New mini summit with an opportunity of a VIP pass Think about what you want to create this year For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Ian O’Roarty. Ian is my youngest child, he turned 15 October 30th, and is a freshman in high school. He is the baby in the house, and taller than us all. He is passionate about basketball, loves his friends, and has melted my mama heart since day one. I say that Ian is my “positive discipline” kid because he was the one who was always game to create a routine, or role play a situation, he was willing. I’d say that Ian and I are very close, I will let him share his experience during the interview… He has always been really open with me, and it doesn’t seem like that is really anything that we haven’t talked about… He loves family time, when we are all together, and is super stoked to have his drivers permit. I am honored that he is willing to come share candidly with all of you on the podcast. Takeaways from the show: Coping with covid Challenges in the last year Being a close relationship with your parents Having a sibling who is going through mental health issues Messaging on swearing

This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!! Takeaways from the show: Beta group Introducing the next mini summit Discovering your most authentic way of being Being responsible for yourself and how you show up Connection to self, family, and community Surrender to being imperfect Teens teach us that flexibility is imperative Trust that things are temporary Create a safe environment so your teen can share what they want from an authentic and open place Caregiving is always in motion Owning discovery around money Trusting the unfolding of life Be with what comes up, feel your feels For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices