Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

Parents are often drawn to "do something" when their kids are making mistakes - but tough love (and by tough love I mean punitive consequences and punishment - taking things away, grounding our kids, isolation, yelling, blaming, silent treatments) doesn't typically deliver what you may intend for it to deliver. There is another way to frame it, another way to think about what our teens need to thrive into young adulthood. Listen in as I tease it apart during today's solo show! Find out more at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts//3-myths-tough-love-what-teens-need Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Emily Kline.  Dr. Kline shares all kinds of useful information this week around why and how we can communicate with our adolescents with the best results. We touch on relinquishing control and asking curiosity questions, then we dig in deep into what motivational interviewing is and why it’s so helpful. I ask Dr. Kline what motivational interviewing might look like when a teenager is using marijuana, and we agree that the best tool we have to influence our adolescents is relationship. Dr. Kline shares tips on how to start tricky conversations and what you can learn in the first 10 seconds. She tells me what limits, consequences, boundaries, etc. look like to her, what we do when teens disregard those limits, and listening for motivation to change.   Takeaways from the show Relinquishing control  Motivational interviewing Teens trying marijuana  The best tool for influence is relationship  Staying respectful & curious  How to deliver advice & why we listen first  Staying neutral

This week's solo shows explores the iceberg and the belief behind our teens behavior in a new way. We have been here before and I am bringing you back to get ever better and teasing apart what it is your teen needs, and how you a can meet them there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m really excited to introduce Dr. Norrine Russell to you all.   Dr. Russell has truly walked the walk with her own complex children which has changed her parenting & professional paths. Dr. Russell shares what she loves about her work, what hurdles complex kids face in traditional schooling, and what parents can do to help support their atypical kids as learners. She talks on why teens need to figure out what they’re good at and how important it is to tell your teens how much you love them and the strengths you see (empowering encouragement, anyone?). I ask Dr. Russell how families can scaffold to support their complex kids, and we discuss how important it is to listen and observe your own teen, as well as how much individualizing you can do in your home to support your adolescent. We talk about how to reframe it when your kids look like “they don’t care” and whether or not “trying their best” is a reasonable and helpful expectation. Dr. Russell also shares her thoughts on motivation, laziness, ADHD, rewar

Another intimate exploration of what it means to be human WHILE raising teenagers. We are deep diving (yet again) into our own stuff. This week focusing on the limiting beliefs we may be holding that keeps our kids small, and the war between our two selves. Join me for some personal growth and discovery! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so glad that you are back with me and my amazing guest, Jayne Demsky.   So many of you have talked to me about school avoidance and how to navigate this, and we’re digging in deep this week! The good thing - there is hope! Jayne shares her story & why she’s so passionate about school avoidance, and why we can’t just “make them go.” Jayne talks about different therapy options like CBT & exposure therapy, the school’s role, underlying causes, & advocating for your child. We discuss how hard school refusal is on the parents & adults and why punitive consequences do not help. I ask Jayne what parents should do first when they start seeing school avoidance or refusal, and we finish by chatting about education reform & improving schools for kids and how parents can self-care during challenging times.  Takeaways from the show What is school avoidance & school refusal?  What are the signs?  CBT & exposure therapy  The school’s role  Underlying causes  Advocating for your child  Why punitive consequences

The Emotional Freight Train is REAL and can take us on wild rides - especially during the teen years, There is no better way to shut down communication with a young person than to come at them with all the emotion of the EFT. Listen to this week's solo show for solidarity, communication skills, and tips for staying off that train! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Dr. Shefali Tsabary, and we’re having a special conversation to celebrate Mother’s Day! Dr. Shefali tells me all about writing her book, “A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free” and how her divorce freed her up for a phenomenal, liberating transformation. Dr. Shefali shares about how we’re conditioned and indoctrinated from childhood and how women can lead the way away from that. We dig into owning your part of the dynamic in different relationships and how much work & courage accountability actually takes. I share a story about my marriage and my expectations, and we compare the difference between letting go and giving up. Dr. Shefali shares her wisdom on how we can challenge our obedience to culture and belief systems.   Takeaways from the show Dr. Shefali’s book: “A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free” Pain & grief from divorce  Seeing the life experiences that interrupt your plan as opportunities  Conditioning

Today is a solo show! Coming out you with a deep dive into the practice of being with what the universe throws your way. I share my own experience of this work and offer listeners tools and tips for personal growth and you move through what's hard. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Nikita Burks-Hale.   Listen in on this fascinating conversation with Nikita! She tells me a bit about her company, Headphones and Crayons, and how she integrates voice and color. We talk about how voice isn’t just what you’re saying, but your vibe and energy, too. Nikita shares about how she uses coloring to amplify voice & calm at home, and how we need home to be a safe-space for kids to express themselves. Nikita shares a dark moment that and how that sparked her path to Headphones and Crayons. We dig into how coloring can be contemplative, meditative, and a great conversation starter, especially with teens. We wrap up our conversation talking about coloring as a family and/or during a family meeting, and Nikita tells us where we can get some of her coloring sheets and audio.  Takeaways from the show Hearing & seeing voice  Voice isn’t just what you say  The power of using your voice  Home as a safe-space  Using coloring to amplify voice & calm at home  Positive Discipline, connect

Today is a solo show. I explore the practice of surrender, what it means to me, and how it fosters more room for our teens to show up as their fullest selves. Takeaways include: Gratitude for the journey Surrender as being with life as it unfolds What it means to let go of our narrative Trusting our teens are growing through what they're going through Letting our kids take the lead For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dana Kay, a board-certified holistic health and nutrition practitioner, best-selling author, and the CEO & founder of the ADHD Thrive Institute.   Dana shares about her son’s ADHD diagnosis and how it launched her business & book, “Thriving with ADHD.” Dana talks about her ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids & reducing inflammation (which is beneficial for everyone, not just those with ADHD). She touches on the gut-brain connection, antibiotics, & your immune system. Dana suggests foods families should consider cutting out, time-saving tips for cooking, and how to pace these changes.  Takeaways from the show Pros, cons, & side-effects of ADHD meds  Dana’s “Thriving with ADHD” book & her ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Reducing inflammation in the body  The gut-brain connection, antibiotics, & your immune system  ADHD diet suggestions Time-saving cooking tips  Making gradual changes For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit pod

This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways include: Navigating big behavior Searching for support The process of getting help for Rowan Holding energy of confident authority Novelty seeking Brain science behind risk taking Staying curious, connected, and calm Prioritizing taking care of yourself For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Brenda Zane, and we are digging deep into teen substance abuse.  Brenda shares about her son’s drug misuse & what got her started in this work. We talk about teens who are exploring risky behavior and teens who are using drugs regularly/daily. Brenda shares tips for having uncomfortable (and ongoing) conversations about drug use with your adolescent and how to come from a place of curiosity (not judgment). We talk about why the confrontational, punitive approach does not work & to consider drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about. Brenda and I also dig into how to share information about drugs with your kids & how to stay calm when you’re freaked out. Brenda finishes up teaching me about fentanyl & when overdoses don’t look like what you’d expect.   Takeaways from the show Novelty seeking as part of teenage brain development Substance use & responding as a parent  Alcohol & marijuana use  Covid, anxiety, isolation, & devices affecting drug use  Experimenting vs. probl

This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Creating space for your teens Raising capable kids Baggage from relationship with your parents Working towards doing better for your kids Being curious and neutral Unconditional love does not equal being permissive Power struggle when saying no Treating teens with dignity and respect Holding an encouraging container For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Nancy Albright, a friend and fellow Positive Discipline Parent Educator.   Nancy and I go way back, and I’m thrilled to chat with her today about deepening our curiosity with our teens. She tells me about her new book, “My Teen and me: 20 meaningful questions to ease your frustration, build trust, communicate, and connect with your teen.” We talk about how to stay curious with love & presence, and how to pull back on your fear & worries. We cover the importance of pausing & explicitly asking your teen what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen, as well as what to do when you’re met with irritation or withdrawal. We wrap up touching on giving yourself love, compassion, & grace in your parenting and the power of presence.  Takeaways from the show Deepening our curiosity with our teens  Curiosity with love and presence  Pulling back on your fear and worries  Pausing & asking our teens what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to liste

This week’s show is a solo show- the fourth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways from the show Teen years are messy Reframing trust Mistakes as opportunities to learn Reviewing kind and firm parenting Brain development in adolescence Exploring feelings from when you were a teen Unwanted results of punishment Showing up with curiosity Opportunities to learn important life skills For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, and we’re digging deep into co-parenting teens.  Sabrina shares her wisdom and expertise on all-things related to divorce, custody, co-parenting, & step families. We get into the legalities of co-parenting & custody agreements and how to move forward while keeping the well-being of your child(ren) at the forefront. Sabrina and I talk about looking at divorce as an opportunity for personal growth (which can be so hard) and how co-parenting is not a one-size-fits-all thing. We discuss how to navigate your teens preferences and rights when it comes to custody, and I ask Sabrina for tips on getting on the same page with an ex partner.  Takeaways from the show What does healthy co-parenting look like? Divorce as an offering for personal growth  Legalities of co-parenting & custody arrangements  The rights & preferences of teens during divorce & regarding custody  Family therapy  How to get on the same page with an ex partner  New partners & step families  “Rememb

This week’s show is a solo show- the third of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. We get into kindness and firmness and explore an experiential activity that invites listeners into their teen's shoes. See more shownotes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Cynthia Kane.   This week is all about communication! Cynthia shares all kinds of advice and help for intentional communication including: the four pillars of right speech and accessing the space (or the pause) to choose how to engage. We pull out some metaphors - why the teen years are a river & behavior as an iceberg. Cynthia and I talk on the importance of authenticity with your teen, what authenticity means, & how to get better at it. Cynthia ends by sharing two concrete strategies for sitting with sensation.   Takeaways from the show The four pillars of right speech  The pause/the space  The teen years as a river  Choosing & getting better at authenticity  Sitting with sensation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices