Sex With Emily

In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all about fantasies. Specifically, the ones you, the Sex With Emily community, shared with me! From threesomes to cuckolding to CNC - consensual nonconsent, I break down each one and also answer your top fantasy questions. What if you have a hard time visualizing your desires? What if you’re nervous to try sex acts you’ve already done with previous partners? I get into all this and more. In this episode, you’ll learn: The psychology behind our top sexual fantasies How to accept your fantasies, even when they feel like the most shameful Success stories from listeners who turned their fantasies into realities See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

Holiday season is near, and the Sex With Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here! We’re all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones’ lives (and your life!) this holiday season? Today, Producer Erica and I discuss our favorite, pleasure-filled gifts. Plus, we discuss: How do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy? And how do you gift one to them? Stay tuned. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: At what point in a relationship it's appropriate to gift someone a sex toy How to introduce sex toys to a new partner My top gift recommendations for your loved ones Hottest Gift Guide Ever: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide The Giftables Collection by Plus One (30% off orders over $50, 30% off sitewide on Cyber Monda

‘Tis the season… for more sex! Today, Producer Erica and I dive into the reasons why people have more or less sex over the holidays, how to maintain intimacy when you’re staying with relatives, and my top discreet toy recs. We also get into relationship dynamics over the holidays: Should you break up before or after? Should you bring them home to meet the parents? Should you hang out with your holiday hookup? And so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Why sex drives peak and decline over holiday breaks The best places to have sex while home for the holidays Things to notice in a partner while traveling See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever Je Joue Mimi, G-Spot Bullet Vibrator & More LELO Dot Clitoral Vibrator Womanizer Premium 2 Suction Toy SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex Wi

The Hotline is ringing, and we’re answering! Producer Erica and I answer all your juicy questions, from discomfort around a partner’s sexual history to how to find a third for a threesome. We also discuss prioritizing solo sex during stressful times like divorce, as well as how to manage premature ejaculation when you’ve started foreplay outside the bedroom. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to send sexy texts with confidence, even if you’ve never sexted with your partner before Suggested steps before bringing someone else into the bedroom Navigating age differences in relationships See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever Feeld.co/Emily for 30 Days of Free Majestic Membership Promescent.com/Emily for 15% off sitewide Podcast: Sex Party 101 SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emi

One of the most important pillars of sexual intelligence is embodiment. Today’s guest knows a thing or two about connecting with your body for a better life and better sex. Bestselling author and wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh, also known as “the Body Whisperer,” teaches us how to listen to our bodies, simple exercises to reduce pain and heighten orgasms, how to work with changing hormones, and so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to do a reverse kegel How posture and gait can affect our sexual performance All about fascia – the “WiFi” of our bodies! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Orgasm During Missionary VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Awaken the Power of Your Pelvic Floor - Join the Waitlist! Aligned Life Studio (code EMILY30 for 30% off your first subscription) More Lauren Roxburgh: Instagram | YouTube | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book

Confidence is something we all struggle with at times, particularly in our sex lives and relationships. From feeling insecure about our bodies, to not thinking we’re “good enough” in bed, messages from society, past partners, and our own shame can affect how we show up in the bedroom. In this Best Of episode, I’m giving you my top tips for boosting your sexual confidence. I also answer your questions like: how do you help a partner boost their confidence? How can you hack your brain to feel confident while naked? How can you fully let go in bed, so that you can experience maximum pleasure? And so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: Specific exercises for building body acceptance Sexual communication tips How to explore sexually, even if you feel less experienced See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Triple Stimulation Masturbation How to Orgasm During Missionary FirmTech (code Emily20 for 20% off) Feeld SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book

I get asked all the time: what makes great sex? Well, today’s guests would argue that the best sex is shameless sex. Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the dynamic duo behind the Shameless Sex podcast, join me today in answering all your juicy questions. From learning to identify what you really want in bed to how to take hot vulva pics and deciding whether an open relationship is right for you, Amy and April share their top tips for becoming a better lover. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to feel more present and embodied during sex What “shameless sex” really means How to improve your sex life with old and new partners See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Triple Stimulation Masturbation Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Magic Wand We-Vibe Podcast: Orgasms, Squirting & The Year of Anal Licking Pre Order Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For Shameless Sex Podcast: Spotify | Apple

Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies How to work through ultimatums in relationships Why your sex life should evolve over time See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. Show Notes: Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Soraya Be

Does dating ever feel like a second job? You’re not alone. Today, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid of the popular U Up? podcast share tips to hack your dating life so you can make genuine connections while enjoying the process. Known for reading between the lines and giving their listeners the straight-up advice they need (but may not always want to hear), Jordana and Jared help me answer all your questions, from what makes a great dating profile to how people’s definitions of “casual sex” can vary. They also help me answer your questions about hooking up with a friend, long-distance relationships, the “ick” and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: What to know before meeting up with a date in person How to create a profile that sparks genuine conversations How to combat dating app fatigue See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need:

([TW // mentions su*c*de] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through 47:00-48:00.) Do you (or your partner) start fights over nothing? Do stable relationships feel unsettling? Today, holistic psychologist, podcast host, and author Dr. Scott Lyons shows us how some of us may be more addicted to drama than we think. From attachment styles to toxic partners, Dr. Lyons explains how unresolved trauma can show up in ourselves and our relationships. We also talk about the desire to have rough sex, why makeup sex feels so good, how trauma lives in our bodies, and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to work through jealousy in relationships How addiction to drama affects our sexual pleasure How to identify and sit with uncomfortable emotions See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva Magic Wand Micro SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Sm

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this Best Of episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity. In this episode, you’ll learn: The history & evolution of relationship structures Reasons people have affairs How to rebuild trust after infidelity See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Samp

We’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. In this Best Of episode, I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Why masturbation is important for your overall sexual wellness The truth about porn addiction How to incorporate toys into solo and partnered sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help Je Joue Amour, Duet & Vita (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off s

If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, this episode’s for you. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions, starting with: how do you tell your partner you’ve been faking orgasms without breaking their heart? Next: is it normal to be dating for MONTHS without penetrative sex? Let’s find out, as well as how to talk about sex with a new partner before you've had it. Looking to explore anal play the right way, after years of uncomfortable attempts? Let’s do it. And finally, we dive into the world of bisexuality. Do you have to tell your partner that you’re bi? How do you incorporate your sexuality into your relationship? From communication tips to sex hacks, I’ve got you! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex:

Missionary is a tried-and-true classic. It’s the position many of us think about when we think about sex… which is also why it gets a bad rap. Haters say it’s boring and vanilla, I say it’s an underrated favorite. In today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you upgrade your missionary game from “meh” to “mind-blowing.” We'll debunk myths about missionary and dive into ways to spice it up, from subtle tweaks to full-blown transformations that’ll keep you (and your partner) coming! Struggling to reach the big O? I've got position hacks to enhance clitoral pleasure, especially for vulva owners who might not feel the stimulation they crave in typical missionary. Speaking of “typical” missionary… Who says missionary can't be kinky? I reveal some of the hottest ways to incorporate bondage, dirty talk, and even some BDSM elements to transform missionary into your new go-to position. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker VIIA Hemp

We all experience sexual highs and lows, but what do you do if your “low” is a literal low libido? And your “high” might result in a penis injury? Let’s find out. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions. Starting with anal rimming: what if your partner has expressed interest in receiving… but feels conflicted about wanting it? Next up: chastity play - it is "Lock-Tober," after all! But could wearing a penis cage set you up for long-term injury? After that, sex that’s gone from vanilla to straight-up boring. When you’ve tried everything to fix it, what now? What does it mean if your body goes numb during oral sex? Finally, you’re fresh out of a long-term relationship, and your sex drive has completely evaporated. How do you get it back? I’ve got a few ideas. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only

Awkward sex: it happens! People lose their erections. Oral sex gets ouchy. Orgasms are MIA. Don’t panic -- you’re in the judgment-free zone! I’m here to help you turn these moments into erotic opportunities. First, I give general mindset tips for sex before sharing your funniest awkward sex stories. Orgasmed so hard you farted? I call that a win. Next, I take your awkward sex questions. How do you play off queefing? What do you do when you’re nervous and keep losing your erection? How about getting too wet? If it makes you self-conscious or interferes with pleasure, how do you deal? If you’ve got a small mouth, and your partner has a large penis, where do you go from there? All this and so much more in this awkward sex recovery episode. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) All Vulvas Are Beautiful SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)

You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant Playground Lube Feeld Dating App SHOP WITH EMILY! (free

We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)

Orgasms are learned skills. So says bestselling author and sex expert Susan Bratton, who teaches couples and individuals to have more collaborative, orgasmic intercourse. Today, Susan and I answer your questions about being a better lover, erasing sexual shame, and, of course… having tons of orgasms. First: how do you help a partner who never orgasms during sex? Susan and I have ideas. Next, how do you train your G-spot for internal orgasms? We give you specific techniques to train your vaginal canal, and help make the area more engorged and responsive. How about Doggy Style – can the receiving partner orgasm more easily in this position? Susan talks through the Glissando Technique to help you out. We also talk through female ejaculatory pleasure and squirting, delayed ejaculation and much (much!) more. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWIT

So many of us follow a sex script that’s been handed to us. But is that script actually serving you? In this popular Best Of episode, I give you permission to let your favorite sexual behaviors lead the way, with tons of spicy ideas to play with. Sex isn’t just about P-in-V (penis in vagina) penetration. Yet, that’s what we often mean by “having sex.” Listen – penetration is great! But I have ideas for mutual masturbation, sensual massage, hand play, elevated oral and so much more. Play this episode, make a list of your favorites, then tailor your next sex session around your authentic desires. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) 4 Ways to Close the Orgasm Gap First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Bo